Parents often tell me they don’t know where to begin to have a “real” conversation with their child. These questions will get you started. Rather than badgering your child with them, use one as the jumping off point for a two-way conversation. Start by asking your child the question, and listen to the answer, remembering to reflect back what she’s saying so she knows you understand.
Don’t shy away from expressing your opinions, as long as you remember not to lecture; kids are often curious what parents think.
The point is developing the habit of conversation and deepening your relationship.
These questions also work well to launch family dinner table conversations.
Getting to Know Your Child
- What are the three most interesting things about you?
- Name five reasons you’re glad to be alive.
- If you could have any super power, what would it be and why?
- If you had a time machine for a day, what would you do with it?