The couples who reach out to us in a state of distress almost always have one thing in common: they want to know that everything is okay.
They want to know that they’re not alone, and they want to make things right. Unfortunately, having been raised on a steady diet of fairytale logic and pop songs, few of us are equipped with particularly good ideas of what a healthy relationship is — much less how to make contingency plans for when we can see that our relationship isn’t.
Dr. Gottman’s 3 Skills (and 1 Rule!) for Intimate Conversation