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How to Live Happily When You and Your Partner Have Opposite Schedules

When you have an opposite schedule than your partner—whether it’s because of work or different sleep schedules—it seems like the only solution is to separate. It takes some effort, but you can manage it and live in harmony.

If your schedules are opposite enough, you might never see each other during your waking moments. You’ll come home late from work to find your significant other already asleep and by the time you wake up in the morning they’ve already gone off to work. Or, even if your work schedules are on the same timetable, your sleep schedules might be totally opposite and you want to go to bed just as they’re ramping up their evening time. Both situations are difficult to deal with, but it’s not impossible to find a balance.

Schedule a Little Time to Spend Together, No Matter What

It might seem impossible, but the most important thing you can do is schedule time together. Whether this is just a couple of meals together a week or a full day off together, make sure you’re making time for the other person whenever you can.

The Huffington Post breaks down a few simple ideas for what to do with your time:

When you’re both home, make sure to carve out together time even if it means just watching a movie or sharing a meal. And take out your calendars every month so you can put aside time for an actual date away from home. Even if your date is hot chocolate together during one of your breaks at work, it’s essential to find time to connect.

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The Family & Youth Institute, or The FYI, is a well-known Muslim organization in the United States. It works to promote mental health and wellness by strengthening and empowering individuals, families, and communities through research and education. It has been working for many years to bring Islamic perspectives to understanding and promoting mental health in our communities.

It is dedicated to serving and supporting Muslims – safeguarding our deen, our families, and our future generations. Therefore, the work of The FYI comes in the category of ‘fi sabeelillah’ or the Path of Allah, within the eight categories where Zakat money can be used.

Zakah expenditures are only for the poor and for the needy and for those employed for it and for bringing hearts together [for Islam] and for freeing captives [or slaves] and for those in debt and for the cause of Allah, and for the [stranded] traveler – an obligation [imposed] by Allah, And Allah, is Knowing and Wise.”
(Al-Tawbah 9:60)

According to scholars who widen the meaning of fee sabeelillah to include any activities that promote Islamic growth, The FYI is indeed eligible to receive part of the Zakat funds for its programs and services. I urge Muslims in America to support this organization through their donations, general charity, and through their Zakat. I ask Allah swt to strengthen and guide The FYI to continue its good work in supporting Muslims.

Shaikh Ali Suleiman Ali, PhD

About Shaikh Ali

Sh. Ali Suleiman Ali was born in Ghana where he spent his childhood studying with various Muslim scholars. He then moved to Saudi Arabia and enrolled in the Islamic University of Madina.  He graduated with a degree in both Arabic and Islamic Studies. Dr. Ali went on to complete his Ph.D. in Islamic Studies at the University of Michigan, Ann Arbor.

Sh. Ali serves on the Advisory Council of The Family & Youth Institute. He is the Senior Imam and Director of the Muslim Community of Western Suburbs in Canton, Michigan. Additionally, he serves as the Director of Muslim Family Services in Detroit and is a council member of the Fiqh Council of North America (FCNA). He is also a member of the North American Imams Federation (NAIF) and the Association of Muslim Jurists of America (AMJA).