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Before you say ‘I do’ Pre-Marriage Questionnaire

When my daughter became engaged, I went online seeking a good marriage compatibility test for them to take. I wasn’t satisfied with anything I found, so I put together a questionnaire that I felt would be worthwhile. Many online tests reveal a score after asking only one partner about 15 questions. You might be tempted for quick and easy reassurance, but you may just end up with a false sense of security. I don’t believe compatibility can be effectively measured and scored. What matters more is how you handle your differences through effective communication, not necessarily the fact that you have them.

Discussing certain topics together could prove much more informative than a score of how many questions you answer the same. Take for example the question: Do you ever get the feeling your partner is keeping something from you? If you both answer “sometimes” it doesn’t make you more compatible just because you answered the same, but imagine the big line of communication it could open up.

This unique set of 166 questions is used as a discussion and discovery tool — not to keep score. You fill it out separately, and then discuss each question together which will promote intimate communication. Many of the questions delve into your innermost feelings and emotions concerning 7 critical categories that will enhance awareness of yourself, your partner and the compatibility of your relationship.

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Zakat eligibility of The FYI

The Family & Youth Institute, or The FYI, is a well-known Muslim organization in the United States. It works to promote mental health and wellness by strengthening and empowering individuals, families, and communities through research and education. It has been working for many years to bring Islamic perspectives to understanding and promoting mental health in our communities.

It is dedicated to serving and supporting Muslims – safeguarding our deen, our families, and our future generations. Therefore, the work of The FYI comes in the category of ‘fi sabeelillah’ or the Path of Allah, within the eight categories where Zakat money can be used.

Zakah expenditures are only for the poor and for the needy and for those employed for it and for bringing hearts together [for Islam] and for freeing captives [or slaves] and for those in debt and for the cause of Allah, and for the [stranded] traveler – an obligation [imposed] by Allah, And Allah, is Knowing and Wise.”
(Al-Tawbah 9:60)

According to scholars who widen the meaning of fee sabeelillah to include any activities that promote Islamic growth, The FYI is indeed eligible to receive part of the Zakat funds for its programs and services. I urge Muslims in America to support this organization through their donations, general charity, and through their Zakat. I ask Allah swt to strengthen and guide The FYI to continue its good work in supporting Muslims.

Shaikh Ali Suleiman Ali, PhD

About Shaikh Ali

Sh. Ali Suleiman Ali was born in Ghana where he spent his childhood studying with various Muslim scholars. He then moved to Saudi Arabia and enrolled in the Islamic University of Madina.  He graduated with a degree in both Arabic and Islamic Studies. Dr. Ali went on to complete his Ph.D. in Islamic Studies at the University of Michigan, Ann Arbor.

Sh. Ali serves on the Advisory Council of The Family & Youth Institute. He is the Senior Imam and Director of the Muslim Community of Western Suburbs in Canton, Michigan. Additionally, he serves as the Director of Muslim Family Services in Detroit and is a council member of the Fiqh Council of North America (FCNA). He is also a member of the North American Imams Federation (NAIF) and the Association of Muslim Jurists of America (AMJA).