In an interview, John Gottman was once asked what to do about “insatiable jealousy” in relationships. His response hit on something really profound for me. “I believe that every person has areas of enduring vulnerability. For a marriage to succeed, these
One of the hardest things to do in a relationship is to be nice to your partner when you’re upset with them. It’s also one of the most important moments to be kind. Dr. Gottman’s research shows that couples who
In this age of endless connection, we are more disconnected than ever and most relationships don’t go very far beyond the surface. Maybe it’s because we hold ourselves back or maybe it’s because we no longer have the tools to
Jane: “Why do you do that?” John: “Do what?” Jane: “You ignore me.” John: “No, I don’t.” Jane: “We need to talk about this. You’re doing it now.” John: “I don’t see the problem. You’re overreacting.” Jane: “No, I’m not!”
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